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Spilled tea and ghosting
May. 27th, 2024 10:56 pmSo one of the ways that Bat was particularly unwise was that they were fucking/possibly dating the toxic and arguably abusive ex of their employer, who for this post we shall call C. ( cut for some tea, quite long )
I have talked with a couple of C and I’s mutual friends, and I am debating whether to spill more than this much tea, because I know some damaging stuff that this development puts in a different light. If C is projecting their guilt and is manipulative enough to think it’s cool to premeditate dropping people without checking any facts at the source, asking any clarifying questions, or letting people know that they messed up so they get a chance to repair the relationship? That is not a good foundation for a friendship. I want people to be safe. And if C thinks that telling tales out of school is the way to go on that, then maybe it is time for me to protect other people from them.
I have talked with a couple of C and I’s mutual friends, and I am debating whether to spill more than this much tea, because I know some damaging stuff that this development puts in a different light. If C is projecting their guilt and is manipulative enough to think it’s cool to premeditate dropping people without checking any facts at the source, asking any clarifying questions, or letting people know that they messed up so they get a chance to repair the relationship? That is not a good foundation for a friendship. I want people to be safe. And if C thinks that telling tales out of school is the way to go on that, then maybe it is time for me to protect other people from them.